With legion of singles, men and women out there, I am always amazed at how some of us behave when it comes to selecting and then meeting a partner for the first time.  It doesn’t matter whether you found your possible match on an online dating site, or through work, friends or whatever, it never fails.

Habits forged over a life time are always difficult to dismiss.  After all we are creatures of habits.  They guide us through our lives, make us feel better about ourselves, act as buffers, go-between separating us from the world out there; determining whom we are and how we live and how we lead our lives.

But according to a recent poll, a staggering 30 pc of American adults are singles, some having never been married before.  Staggering as these figures are, one thing they indicated that as far as our dating habits are concerned, we may very well be embarked on the wrong path.  They have not brought us any luck so far in our attempts to find relationship and romance, and in all likelihood, they will not bring us any more success in the future.

Over time, we become so entrenched in bad habits that we don’t even see them for what they really are: a hindrance to our dating success, a determining factor in the reasons why we are singles.

It seems evident then that we ought to re-visit our preconceived ideas about who we are really, and the partners we are looking for.  Let’s not be afraid of learning from past mistakes.  Our expectations, our assessment of the men and women we are and want to meet, all these need to be looked at more carefully.

Dating, and online dating is difficult.  It’s not an easy task to find a partner, a soul mate, a companion to spend a life time with, or at least some of it.  For the sake for sanity, let us not make it any more difficult then it already is. 

T’is tough to date nowayday.

So you have been dating this wonderful single woman for sometime!  You have shown yourself to be the perfect gentleman, attentive and kind, ready to and show emotions when required.  You have taken care of how you dressed, made sure you were perfectly groomed and taken her to the places of her choosing because you are just that kind of man really.

You have shown yourself to be the perfect gentleman, attentive and kind, ready to and show emotions when required.  You have taken care of how you dressed, made sure you perfectly groomed and taken her to the places of her choosing because you are just that kind of man really.

Oh! How you have longed to kiss those lips, inhale yourself with their taste and yet, at the end of each date, you have kept the inner struggles for the first kiss within yourself.  A polite handshake at the first date, gradually followed by more affectionate embraces when she has let her body be drawn closer to you, a date at a time.