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Exotic Lingerie Info: What Makes a Dominant Partner?There are two types of relationships today as one who appreciates Exotic Lingerie. First is the most commonly recognized and socially accepted. The second is the oldest and most widely misunderstood, and even sometimes frowned on by society.The most commonly accepted type of relationship today is the 'vanilla' relationship. In this type of relationship roles and responsibilities are equally divided amond the partners. The day to day control of the partnership is shared by both. It is probable if not possible that both partners have jobs outside the home or possibly one may be a stay at home parent. In any case each shares the responsibilities for all the decisions that would affect the overall health of the relationship. Second is the dominant/submissive relationship. Commonly referred to as a D/s relationship. In this type of relationship one partner has visibily more control in the relationship than the other. There are no guidelines that I know of that earmarks whether it's the female partner or the male partner that takes on this role. Just like the vanilla relationship both partners may work outside the home or one may be a stay at home mom or dad. Social conditioning has taught us to believe that 'vanilla' relationships are better for everyone involved. There are however hundreds of thousands if not millions of people that would strongly argue that a "D/s" relationship is more likely to stand the test of time. I am a submissive woman and have lived a traditional lifestyle with my husband of many years. I don't just believe but I know the relationship we share is as strong if not stronger than any relationship of fifty years. Most of my friends found it disturbing in the beginning when they first learned of our lifestyle. In time and after seeing our relationship for what it really is they have all admitted their preconceptions were wrong and in many cases have admitted that they wish for a relationship as strong as ours. Consider history. In bibical times it was accepted and expected that both partners would have very specific roles. Typically the women had the responsibility for the home and children while the men were the 'hunter/gatherers'. It has been the norm throughout history for women to be relegated to a subordinated position with their relationships. Even today many countries believe this to be the only way of life. The comical thing is that up until the 20th century and even well into the 20th century, 'D/s' lifestyles were the norm instead of the exception. Back when the divorce rates were lower, children were taught the meaning of respect and honestly and even religion was at the center of a families core values. Hmm makes you think doesn't it? Today in contrast to the past, it is expected of partners to share equally in the roles of hunter gatherer, cook, maid, child rearer etc. Given the state of the world today, highest crimes rates in all history, an almost complete disregard for teaching children the values of respecting others and honesty, I must question if society has helped or hindered relationships as a whole. I'm sure many will read this and think I'm completely nuts, but it is my opinion. I think the funniest thing about today's relationships is that many if not most relationships mirror the traditional lifestyle and there is an unspoken seperation of roles and responsibilities. These people that live in these relationships are afraid I believe, and possibly almost embarassed to admit how comfortable they are living in a semi-traditional lifestyle. It is so much easier to put on a false face for the outsiders to avoid being criticized for their lifestyle choice. It takes strong people with strong convictions to accept a traditional lifestyle and make it work. If more people would accept the obvious advantages to it I think the world could become a better place. But again, that's just my humble opinion. Consider the following and then ask yourself; "could I be one of those living in the closet"? You might find that some of the qualities I've listed below apply to you or your partner and if that is the case, maybe you will pause the next time you feel it necessary to be critical of how others choose to live. 1. A Dominant is one who has the understanding that he or she is not perfect (sorry guys, even you) 2. A Dominant has taken the time to accept his or her flaws as an individual, has come to terms with them, and determined how best to control and deal with them effectively. 3. Dominant partners realize that the proof of their dominance doesn't come from the person who might call them the boss, but from within themselves. This is proven out to them by way of their personalities, ethics, standards and values. 4. A Dominant has realized that they have the responsibility to themselves to inform as thoroughly as possible regarding the wide ranging aspects of a traditional lifestyle. They take the time to consider what their own needs are within each aspect of their life and are capable of clearly expressing those needs to a submissive partner. 5. Life experience have taught them the importance of trust and respect in any relationship, and they recognize that their partner can only submit to a partner with the type character that makes them worthy of trust and respect. 6. A Dominant partner will understand and accept that before expecting a submissive partner to give over control of their life. They must first have complete control over their own life. 7. A Dominant will understand that words such as integrity, character, honesty, fairness and consistency represent concepts that are apparent throughout all areas of a Dominant's life. They are not mere words to be used and applied selectively when they may be to your advantage. Not only are those words representative of the character of the person, they are hallmarks of the character of a Dominant person. If any of these things ring a sound of familiarity to you or your partner then you may be one of those living in the closet without realizing it. If they sound true and you don't live this lifestyle you may have all the key ingredients to build a relationship that will withstand all the trials and tribulations that time can throw at you. Consider these things next time before criticizing someone that says "we live a traditional lifestyle'. It will make you a better person for it. 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